They say friends are the family you choose. If that's the case then I'm better off with the family I was born into. Over the years I've come to realize in a very harsh way, that nothing really can compare to family. There are of course friends who I cherish and still love and will do anything for. But once a tie breaks it's gone forever. It seems like nothing is going to mend that tie back.
I wasn't one to have many friends to begin with. I always made it a point to focus on a more developed friendship hence I used to put all my energy into having only ONE best friend at a time. In my teens I realized I didn't care anymore. I was too busy with other things so friends took a backseat. It took me a move to India to realize that friends are really important. There needs to be a balance in life and friends add that balance. It's too bad I fell into the wrong crowd and trusted all the wrong people. But after that I wised up and made some strong bonds with some amazing people which are still very much a part of my life.
I was very fortunate to have such awesome people in my life at the most crucial stages. The number of people in my trusted circle seems to go down every few years but I suppose that's how life is. Other things take a priority and all that energy is focused on something else more important. Friends get their own lives, you have to start walking your own path either with your partner or alone. Whatever the case may be, friends are simply that...Just friends...Never family. They WILL judge you...They WILL betray you...and even though family can do these things too...The blood bond I suppose gives them a lifetime free pass for forgiveness and unconditional love.
I wasn't one to have many friends to begin with. I always made it a point to focus on a more developed friendship hence I used to put all my energy into having only ONE best friend at a time. In my teens I realized I didn't care anymore. I was too busy with other things so friends took a backseat. It took me a move to India to realize that friends are really important. There needs to be a balance in life and friends add that balance. It's too bad I fell into the wrong crowd and trusted all the wrong people. But after that I wised up and made some strong bonds with some amazing people which are still very much a part of my life.
I was very fortunate to have such awesome people in my life at the most crucial stages. The number of people in my trusted circle seems to go down every few years but I suppose that's how life is. Other things take a priority and all that energy is focused on something else more important. Friends get their own lives, you have to start walking your own path either with your partner or alone. Whatever the case may be, friends are simply that...Just friends...Never family. They WILL judge you...They WILL betray you...and even though family can do these things too...The blood bond I suppose gives them a lifetime free pass for forgiveness and unconditional love.
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